The Reality of a Good Relationship

I thank God every day that He sent me (or let me stumble upon) my husband. Every relationship has its good years and bad (the bad feeling like decades), but when you know that you have something worth fighting for you stay put - you dig in with your teeth like a pit bull (and complain heartily to your friends in the meantime). Separation, be it work or war or both, can be devastating to a marriage, however, with trust, faith and most importantly, a healthy sense of humor two can survive anything...


“I want a man whose gonna rock me like my back bone was his own” (Bonnie Raitt, Love Me Like A Man)

The Email

I’ll bet that you probably didn’t watch the Kentucky Derby, but during the after race interviews, there was a defining moment for the society that we live in. I was appalled when the network interviewed the owner of the winning horse and he first thanked Billy Joel and plugged his latest album and then said (of his wife standing next to him), “and married to this beautiful thing “,talking about all the wonderful things in his life. She was looking up at this “fat cat” excitedly and apparently no one understood that great head could get you into the winner’s circle at the Kentucky derby wearing a great hat. Perhaps I’m too sensitive, but it just sounded bad. It was an off-the-cuff remark and seemed to delineate just what’s wrong with the values in this world. If I ever have a great success and refer to you as that “beautiful thing “, you have my permission to shoot my ass with the very gun that I gave you! Even though I think that you are beautiful, that’s not the way to refer to your partner in life. Call me old fashioned, but respect is the cornerstone of a worthwhile relationship. Remember! , you’re one of my heroes and are deserving of not only my undying love but a great respect as well!
Love you

“After all, he’s just a man” (Stand by Your Man, Loretta Lynn)

The email:

I had all kinds of problems sending my Valentines, but I think that you’ll just get extra copies. Hopefully they all arrived safely. Oh, and since yesterday, I’m not allowed to read your blog on the government computer because you have apparently exceeded the allowable number of questionable words! How’s that for censorship.
It’s been raining off and on all day and can’t seem to make up its mind. I’d like to get a haircut today, but I think that laundry is more critical at this point. With this six- day work schedule, I use a lot more black socks and white T-shirts. I’ve also got two uniforms in the commercial laundry to pick up. All this domesticity is depressing; I really just want to take a nap!

The IM

Husband: Good morning
Wife: good morning!
Husband: I left the dinner to come and see you
Husband: I needed the break
Husband: fried fish with eyeballs
Husband: pancit and chicken adobo
Wife: ah!
Wife: watching national weather service
Wife can you say blizzard
Husband: hawaiian pooky which is raw tuna marinated with onions and soy and dipped in this green horseradish paste
Wife: yuk
Wife: good thing you have me then
Husband: how much?
Wife: 10 to 15 inches
Husband: too much
Wife: 3 inches an hour from midnight to 3:00 am
Wife: white out conditions.
Wife: dangerous nor-easter
Wife: we're on the line
Wife: between watch and blizzard watch
Husband: I wish you could come here and cook
Wife: heck, i'd leave right now if i could
Husband: be careful
Wife: ahead of the flipping storm
Wife: i'd like to be somewhere warmer!!!!!!
Husband it's very humid and everyone is sweating
Wife: DURING THE HEIGHT OF THE STORM SUNDAY MORNING...SNOWFALL RATES MAY
REACH 2 TO 3 INCHES PER HOUR AT TIMES. GUSTY NORTHEAST WINDS WILL
CREATE AREAS OF BLOWING AND DRIFTING SNOW WITH LIMITED VISIBILITY.
Husband: orchids are in bloom
Wife: yeah, yeah, yah
Wife: see copy and paste from the nws
(10 Minutes more of IM)
Wife: also, i'm having issues
Wife: with swelling
Husband: of course
Wife: and water retention
Husband: hmmm
Wife: but.. all that would take would be 200 bucks and a trip to cohoes
Husband: how's your tits?
Wife: i need 2 blazers, 3 tops, and...
Husband: bigger?
Wife: no no they are not bigger
Husband: oh well
(Censored)
Wife: the hot flashes, not so bad, yet
Wife: hmm... other than a little swelling and mind loss (who would notice)
Wife: i'm swinging!
Husband: every hen in the universe has a last egg
Wife: thank you for comparing me to a chicken
Husband: you're just part of the natural order
Wife: thank you mr. wizard
Wife: don't get so deep
Wife: i'm really superficial this morning
Husband; I love you
Wife: love you, check in tomorrow at say same time?
Husband: yes
Wife: (every hen in the universe
Husband: bye bye
Wife: has it's last egg..
Wife: you clown
Husband:: hahahaha
Wife: this is good, i'm posting this to my blog